Perfectionists.......!!

Do you seek perfection?

Whats it really all about ?   FEAR!!!!


The fear of not being good enough?  

The fear of being judged or wrong?

The fear of what others may think of you?  Fear of rejection?

But mostly........

The fear of what we actually think of ourselves!

We end up being so scared of failing, so scared of being anything less than perfect that nothing is a pleasure.

Even when something is achieved to perfection... it could have still been a bit better...yes?

Imagine... just for one moment

There was no expectation of you;

what ever you delivered, however you dressed, however you looked, what ever you said, how you sang, your work level, your house, your relationships....

was always deemed to be perfect just because it was part of you.....

Being perfect just because it is you

The release of the burden of meeting those high standards, releasing the load of expectation

and instead...

living.... experiencing... enjoying.... feeling light....fun.... and feeling free......................

Help to achieve is always on hand

So How is your vision working out so far in 2015?

We are now in the second month of the year, how is it all shaping up?  Does it resemble your goals?

Did you think about your goals for this year?

Did you create your own vision board?

When you thought about your goals and dreams did it include all of your life?

Work?  Leisure?  Relationships?  Fun?  Gifts & Treats for You?  Finances?  Health?  Fun?

And then what?

What have you changed to help create the life that you want?

We so often make lists of all the things we want in our life and then leave it there....

We may even think about them for a few weeks afterwards whilst we are still wrapped in the cloak of new beginning motivation.....

But what do we really do to make those changes and to create the life that we really want?

What conscious actions do we take?

Just think about that......

What can you do today to make a small difference in your life?

and finally.....

Whats really stopping you?            Whats blocking you?



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Whats your priority for 2015?

Happy New Year!

I don't usually make New year resolutions.....

New Years resolutions in the past have been my list that I want to beat myself up over..... my judgemental list of what I should or ought to be doing for myself!!

• I should get fit
• I should lose weight
• I should be stronger
• I should give more
• I should be more perfect!!!!!!

But do you know what I learnt in 2014 - I have Freedom and I really am perfect just the way that I am!


So this year my thought process was different....

What do I want for myself? What is going to Nourish me?  Fulfil me? and really ignite and invigorate the passion for life within me?

This year is definitely all about me!

and for once I really can not wait!

This year I am going to give myself everything that I have ever wanted in life!

AND I AM GOING TO HAVE SO MUCH FUN!

How many of us stop ourselves from living the lives that we want because we are stuck with our own internal critic - chit chat, chit chat all the time....saying..      You can't do that!  You should do that better! You need to work harder! If only you could please one more person! You're not good enough to do that!

Sound familiar.....?  stuck with our limitations!

Then why not re evaluate - 

What is important to you for this year - what do you want for you - not for anyone else - not to please anyone other than yourself..... what is that one thing that is going to overfill your heart with joy?

What would be that one thing on the top of your list?

What ever your priority is for you..... enjoy!

Happy New Year!

Maria.C

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I hope that you enjoy

Happy New Year

Maria x

Believing in yourself.... So easy to say! Step one

Self belief is one of those attributes that we would all love a little more of.....

So easy to say......but not so easy to achieve....

Do your beliefs about yourself sometimes hold you back from what you want to do?


It is reported that we have approx 90,000 thoughts a day of which 75,000 of them we had yesterday..and the day before and the day before that too...


We are brought up on negativity and self criticism.... So what percentage of those thoughts do you think would be positive or negative?  

Quite a lot are negative, right?

So, if there are loads more negative......  How do you think that is going to leave you feeling about yourself?

Not smart enough, not sociable enough, not slim enough, not pretty enough, ........ Not enough

The good thing is.....these are just thoughts.....and thoughts can be changed!

Step one ........  Become aware of your own thoughts ......

You can not do anything if you are not aware of it...

Become aware of yourself and your own thoughts over the next week

Write down or journal some of the thoughts that you become aware of.......

How do they make you feel?  Do you know where they originate from?


Discover step 2 next week.

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Meditation for stress relief

Stress, as I am sure you have seen reported repeatedly, can be a contributor to many illnesses including autoimmune diseases, depressions, chronic fatigue, heart disease, insomnia and anxieties to name a few.

During stress our bodies go into a protection mode which causes our bodies to pump out adrenaline and cortisol, increase our heart rates, blood sugars and reduce insulin production and suppression of our immune system.

Meditation releases stress and can not only help to reverses the physical effects, as above, but with regular use can help to reduce the build up of previous stress and start to promote an inner calmness.

•  Meditate for Better Health – calming and centring
  Meditate to Sharpen your mind – living mindfully
  Meditate to be more aware of your body and mind – healing body and mind
  Meditate to balance your emotions -love and compassion
  Meditate to heal psychological problems – problem solving
  Meditate to contemplate the mysteries of life – manifesting our dreams

Sitting quietly and enabling you to look within has been reported to trigger the brain to release neurotransmitters including dopamine, serotonin and endorphins – the feel good natural chemicals.

Dopamine  governs our pleasure, focus and satisfaction levels whilst serotonin has a calming effect and helps to  reduce the effects of feeling stressed.

Starting with just 5 minutes a day, can make profound differences to your own stress and anxiety levels.

There are groups that you can join in your local community, or audio CDs that guide you through a deep relaxation. Alternatively you can find further meditations on “You Tube”.

Changes

Good afternoon......

I just wanted to share with you today a brief experience that has shown me just how much my thought process has changed.

I have been doing a lot of work, studies and putting into self practise meditations..... Awareness of thought patterns, beliefs and consciously changing these...for me!

Taking back my own power and setting myself free to make my own choices.......

During this process, I have been making myself aware of all self criticism....all critical comments really and as soon as I hear myself my plan has been to change this thought to a positive affirmation.

The first few days, I could hear myself whining at myself, from wake up...groan and moan to looking in the mirror and picking out every fault!

Just a short period has passed and my awareness of my own thoughts has heightened.... Being able to change the negative self requests into positive ones....

My mother used to tell me as a child "Be careful what you wish for". I had no idea what this really meant.

During one of my self doubting moments, I stopped myself and thought about what I would really like ..right here..right now..  In this particular case it was a couple more people for a workshop..

My thought process changed from "I will never get enough people" to " I have the perfect size and group for this workshop".  When I got home I checked my emails and there was the bookings that I wanted!!!!!

Just with a simple change of thoughts......

Amazing!